Where is the line between fetish and just like regular attraction/ orientation? Like if someone is only attracted to women that’s considered an orientation but if you exprienc exclusive attraction to some other group like fat people that’s considered a fetish.
Why is exclusive attraction to a gender an orientation but exclusive attraction to any other trait is a fetish? The thing is it’s not even just that. I’m cetrosexual meaning I’m exclusively attracted to nonbinary people and a lot of people are anti-cetro bc they view it as a fetish so clearly at least nonbinary can be a fetish in some peoples minds.
This isn’t nesscairly me saying they should be considered the same thing, I’m sure the distintion matters to some people, I’m more just confused.
My take on it is that what is considered a fetish is subjective. A decent amount of fetishes are called fetishes because they specifically focus on non-normative attractions. Attraction to specific genders often aren’t categorised as a fetish usually because either it’s accepted as a normal attraction by a portion of society or ‘fetish’ is perceived as a derogatory term and people want to distance their personal identities from that.
There’s also a difference between a kink and a fetish as concepts. Fetishes usually are things that someone has to have in order to be attracted and/or aroused. Kinks are usually not exclusive like that (like they’re not inherently necessary to create attraction). But not everyone uses those terms in that way.
Because yeah, being nonbinary can be a fetish to some people – being trans* (transgender, transsexual, a crossdresser or crossdreamer, or being GNC) can also be a fetish to some people. I mean that in the sense that genderplay is fairly common within kink spaces and some people transition/detransition/retransition for themselves because of fetish and/or kink reasons. Not in the sense that some people think being nonbinary is a fetish in a very negative way, where people think fetishes are inherently disgusting.
I’m not sure how much sense that makes, since I’m not always great at wording things. But I wanted to respond to this.