anon: hi !! I sent this to another account ( the anti rq john homestuck account ) , but I was wondering if you have any possible advice on how to not go back into the radqueer community ?

my name is angelica , you might’ve heard of me actually , I ran a fairly popular radqueer account (@transhcdid ) , but I deleted the blog due to how I got a sensitive content warning and didn’t wanna deal with that , so I made a new account but immediately deleted that one , as I had come to the realization that being radqueer was actually damaging to me in multiple ways

( my gr00mer being popular in the community , my sensitivity to hate and high emotions which caused me to get very angry at any hatemail I got , stuff like that )

I recently have been struggling a lot with not making a new account again , as I miss the attention I received from the radqueer community that many of my other peers fail to give me ( friends , my family , and even my partners ) , and from what I personally experienced and with who I met , a lot of the community was very accepting to who I was and as someone who’s been rejected their whole life , that meant so much to me , but I know now that being radqueer is bad for me .do you have any possible tips on how to avoid going back ?

specifically any tips on how to cope with the need of attention and wanting to feel accepted ?

i apologize if this is too personal or anything !!

antiradqueerguy:

So my idiot ass has almost joined the radqueer community atleast 3 different times so i do understand the feeling of not wanting to go back yet seeking the attention you got from it,

i think its why a lot of radqueers become antis and then go back to being radqueers, because they love bomb you hugely and even i have felt that.

the biggest thing that could help with the attention issue is just asking for help, reach out to mutuals and see if they are okay with chatting with you about things outside the radqueer and anti community, some of your own interests and ideas, (if ppl say no hit up my messages i love talking to people)

now how to avoid going back is a bit harder cause me myself i’ve never been a radqueer but I’ve owned a lot of bait accounts so i can kind of help, The radqueer community was damaging you not only through your groomer but also hate mail, I think if you can look back on how it harmed you and how it affected you that could maybe stop you from going back, knowing that they have affected you and knowing that you are better here than you were there.

sorry if this is not very helpful