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From a post by a-flowers-knowledge:

“Alright, I think the best thing I can start with is this,
What is a sunset paraphile? The shortest answer I can give is this:

A sunset paraphile is a paraphile who’s stances are the following:

• Pro recovery:
  • Not believing that going to therapy is conversion therapy or desiring a change in said therapy + being an anti-radqueer paraphile
• Anti contact when it comes to dangerous paraphilias
  • This is mainly for “the big three” while there is an awareness that other paraphilias can be dangerous by coercion (biastophilia, somnophilia, e.g.), bodily harm (vorarephilia, e.g.), or if done excessively (Sadism/Masochism can be harmful if it goes too far, e.g.)
• There are lines and overlaps between paraphilias, paraphilic disorders (PaDs) and different presentations of OCD
  • Those lines and overlaps should NOT be blurred. This means understanding that the shame or guilt felt there exists for a reason, or that someone may confuse arousal for another emotion or experience.
• Kinks and fetishes are considered paraphilias, but are more accepted due to the separation and lack of knowledge as to what a paraphilia is.
• Understanding that attraction is not action, whilst being aware anyone who says that it’s okay to act on attraction is an offender, or that not all offenders had been a pedophile.
  • (let’s ask this simple question, for example. Why do groomers tend to be folks online or family members? They don’t like the child – but like how easy it is to exploit said child.)

This is already a long post, as is, sure, but I would like to go deeper into what these beliefs exactly mean, if you’re still confused.

Being pro-recovery as a paraphile can mean that a sunset paraphile may understand whatever reason that the sunset para or another para may go to therapy. The therapy could be used to understand why the guilt or shame exists, and how to lighten that guilt or shame while making sure there are alternatives to contacting the attraction, or to not contact at all, and the reason. That therapy can be used to, when it is safer for the person to do so, find out the source of the paraphilia they had, and whether it’s from another disorder, trauma, or just simply exists.

There’s a multitude of ways therapy can be used to aid paraphiles, and the idea that all therapy is conversion therapy – which was spread by pro-contact paraphilies or radqueers – is insane. These are the same people who are anti-psych just so they could transition to a disorder, or just so they can make new ones up, [and] the same people who promote the idea of grooming children while doing so through the community existing.

But no one wants to really discuss this portion because they hind the guise of their predatory ideals behind saying fragile lies, not understanding the dangers behind them. I would love to discuss this more if anyone asks what I mean.

Yes, the big three are well known for being dangerous, however, there are multiple other paraphilias that can be just as or even more harmful. My somnophilia gets triggered simply by seeing my friends sleep, and it’s the urge to do something while they are, and reminding myself that I can’t. Other paraphilias in this boat can be frotterism and biastophilia, for example. They’re still harmful or normally a paraphilia based off of the lack of consent. They can be turned into consensual encounters, but that’s going to be its own post, for now.

Paraphilias and paraphilic disorders have a larger overlap: the biggest difference between a paraphilia and a paraphilic disorder is the shame and/or guilt found with it, and how it stresses the paraphile out. This overlaps with OCD as well, and the intrusive thoughts. Now, this overlap existing doesn’t mean that OCD and non-disordered paraphilias overlap, but they’re like sibling in some sense or the two parental parts to a child.

These lines should not be blurred. It needs to also be understood that if one turns out to be the other that it’s fine. Melting that shame and guilt away is not productive for the person, and will come back once they leave those groups. It actually harms them in a longer run and makes it harder for them to recover.

This one is rather self explanatory for me; kinks and fetishes are still paraphilias or connected to them. Sadism and masochism? Congratulations – paraphilia! You like certain parts or have a preference for races! Paraphilia – partialism is for the specific body parts.

There’s a list of paraphilias out there already, and no, Susan, liking rope isn’t normal and you know this, you either like being restrained or the feeling of it and it’s still a paraphilia.

I hope you kinda learned something new? If not, feel free to ask be questions! My ask box should be open, and anons are allowed to ask!”

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