A form of non-monogamy that emphasises the unethical parts rather than the ethical parts.
I want to state it clearly that this in no way includes cheating/infidelity; as that is not “non-monogamous”. That is cheating/infidelity.
Examples
Examples of what it is NOT:
(Pro) cheating/infidelity/going behind an object of attraction’s back in similarly major ways.
Everyone dating each other (optional)/being an equal/etc.
“You want to fuck everybody” as an argument against polyamory. Everyone wants to fuck ME actually.
Anti-consent, pro-abuse, pro-non-consensual activity, etc.
Examples of what it IS:
Embracing, or perhaps even thriving on jealousy between/of partners.
^ may mean someone/everyone enjoys a competitive relationship dynamic.
(May or may not be) centred around aromantic/aro-spec allosexuality. (personal to me/why I coined this)
Pro CONSENSUAL abuse, fetish/kink/paraphilia, incest, non-consensual scenes, etc.
Embracing atypical relationship dynamics.
Embracing differing power dynamics.
Embracing fetish/kink/paraphilia – practiced, or not.
Hierarchal relationship(s).
Whoever and whatever.
What the term is undecided on/has grey areas around:
"Polyamorous" cults/attributing polyamory to cults.
"You’re afraid of commitment" as an argument against polamory.
The belief that polyamory is inherently sexual/kinky.
Recovery, intervention, et cetera.
Rejecting “safe” and “sane” as relationship descriptors to emphasise the “consensual” part.
Additional
Based on a joke I made about having an unethical non-monogamous relationships with my F/Os, and is intended to be “reclaimed” by conabuse, CNC, proposed “evil” neurodivergent (cluster Bs, psychotic-spectrum, etc.), paraphilic, and similar relationships/individuals who partake in polyamory.
The ethical non-monogamy flag is a lightened version of the main polyamorous flag, so this one is darker. The gold and purple are meant to symbolise self-love, putting yourself before others, and hints of “royalty”. The colour’s meanings may have some relation to narcissism/narcissistic traits.
