Fae (slang and subculture coining proposal)
Good afternoon, my loves! This idea had been sitting on my brain for a while, and I want to share it with you guys.
In summary, since the word “dolls” is slang term belonging to trans women/transfemmes, I figured that there should be some special affectionate slang term that we intersex women/interfemmes should use for ourselves and each other: “faes”.
What does the slang fae mean?
A fae is slang for a beautiful, mystical, ethereal and stunning intersex woman/interfemme. This is meant for intersex women and interfemmes to claim as a way to build confidence and empowerment in acknowledging and embracing our beauty, especially the beauty in intersex womanhood and intersex femininity and intersex queer womanhood and femininity, in a harsh, cruel and nasty world and society that frequently tries to erase, mock, dismiss, laugh at, disrespect and dehumanize us yet also simultaneously and hypocritically objectifying, fetishizing and hyper-sexualizing us.
Since “fae” is short for “fairy”, this not only is in reference to fae/fairy mythology from fairy tale folklore but also thus overlaps with intersex women and interfemmes reclaiming the trope and idea of being seen as alluring, fascinating, magical, desirable and intriguing but only reclaiming it for ourselves to take back our agency and autonomy, and not for the sake of appeasing or getting approval from interphobes, intersexists and intermisogynists that erase and dehumanize us while also simultaneously objectifying and fetishizing us (ew!). This also parallels some queer folks reclaiming the word fairy. (refererence: @satyrradio’s Alluring Intersex flag, for intersex folks who reclaim the Intersex Allure trope)
This slang and subculture will especially aim to empower and uplift black and brown intersex women and interfemmes of color, intersex women and interfemmes and autistic, neurodivergent and disabled intersex women and interfemmes (especially as I’m a black/brown mixed race and autistic neurodivergent intersex woman and interfemme). This also incorporates elements of hyperfem, coquette, bimbocore, fairycore, punk, cryptidcore and fairy grunge (though whatever fashion and fashion or subculture aesthetic you feel best fits you is welcome, and intersex women/femmes who are masc, butch or futch are welcome to use as well!).
Also, I hope there’ll be a flag coining for this soon, especially by somebody like either @satyrradio or @brokendollhouse22-blog (whom I hope will see and read this! Please let’s make it happen! 💖💖🤞🏽🤞🏽).
Note: Intersex men and intermascs, especially autistic, neurodivergent and disabled intersex men and intermascs and black and brown intersex men and intermascs of color are absolutely welcome to claim the slang fae, as intersex men and intermascs, especially those of color and who are more feminine and androgynous in expression and presentation are just as likely to face intersexism, interphobia, intermisandry and intermisandrinoir just as much as intersex women and interfemmes face intersexism, interphobia, intermisogyny and intermisogynoir.